Tao Te Ching's opening—'the Tao that can be named is not the eternal Tao'—applied to releasing fixed identity.
The Tao Te Ching begins with paradox: the ultimate reality cannot be captured in language or fixed categories. You spend your life solidifying an identity—a name, a resume, a reputation, a role. Yet at death, all these names dissolve, revealing that your true nature was always the unnamed, unnameable essence beneath the labels. Memento mori teaches that whatever you've named yourself to be—successful, failed, important, insignificant—these are temporary framings of something far vaster and simpler. Laozi suggests that clinging to your name, your constructed identity, is the source of suffering. The practice is to practice being unnamed: in meditation, in moments of genuine connection, in times of rest. The person who dies at peace is one who held their identity lightly, who understood that beneath all the names was an unnamed presence that cannot be diminished or lost because it was never truly possessed.
Peri can explain this concept, give practical examples, help you decide whether it applies to your situation, or recommend a journey if appropriate.
Explore related journeys or tell Peri what you're working through.