The Circle of Community

Mirabai's devotional practice was never solitary; it was embedded in sangha—spiritual community. She sang with others, learned from gurus, was witnessed by devotees. This community served as an anchor, preventing the isolation that intensifies insecure attachment. When two people collapse into only each other, they lose perspective, enable dysfunction, and create pressure for the relationship to meet all needs. The circle of community framework suggests building partnerships within networks of trusted people: mentors, friends, teachers, community members who know you both and can offer wisdom. Before choosing a partner, consider: Do I have a community? Will this person integrate into my circles or demand isolation? Can we both maintain friendships and connections? Will we seek counsel from wise people when we struggle? Mirabai's sangha didn't solve her problems but reflected her truth back to her and kept her tethered to purpose larger than any single relationship. Secure attachers maintain community even in partnership, creating natural checks against codependency. They choose partners who encourage their friendships and spiritual growth. This prevents the desperate intensity that often marks insecure attachment.