The Cost Accounting of Love: Mirabai's Renunciation Framework

Mirabai explicitly named the cost of her devotion: social death, family rejection, reputation destruction, conventional happiness. She did this accounting consciously and chose her path anyway. This framework applies powerfully to attachment patterns. What does your anxious attachment cost you? Relationships that drain you, time spent in obsessive rumination, creative energy lost to relationship anxiety, your own autonomy sacrificed. What does avoidant attachment cost? Isolation, intimacy never deepened, emotional numbness masquerading as independence. Mirabai's examined heart did this accounting not to shame herself but to ensure her choices were conscious. She could say: I am paying this price because this matters more to me than comfort. For attachment work, naming costs creates motivation. If your attachment pattern costs you your integrity but gains you only pseudo-security, that accounting becomes impossible to ignore. This concept is brutal honesty as a change agent.