The Courage to Be Alone

Mirabai left home and lived a solitary spiritual life. This was not isolation but a deliberate choice to know herself deeply and commune with what she loved most. Codependency is fundamentally a flight from ourselves—we pursue others to escape the discomfort of our own company. We fill silence with texts, conversations, and plans rather than face our own thoughts and feelings. Mirabai teaches that solitude is not punishment but medicine. When we can be alone without panic, when we can enjoy our own thoughts, when we can sit with our own grief and fear, we no longer need another person to complete us. This doesn't mean isolation; it means developing such a solid internal life that togetherness becomes a choice, not a necessity. This transforms everything about how we relate.