The willingness to openly express devotion, need, and vulnerability without shame, while maintaining clear limits on how you'll be treated.
Mirabai danced in public. She sang her longing. She didn't hide her love or perform indifference. She was radically visible—and radically bounded. She showed her heart and showed her boundaries simultaneously. Many people conflate visibility with vulnerability to harm; they believe that if you express need, you must accept any treatment. Mirabai contradicts this completely. You can say 'I love you deeply' and 'I won't tolerate disrespect.' You can be tender and fierce in the same moment. In Boundaries in Love, this courage is revolutionary. Women especially are taught to either be small and inoffensive or hard and defended. Mirabai shows a third way: be fully visible in your love while being absolutely clear about your standards. Express your longings without apologizing. Name your needs without shame. Dance your devotion. And set consequences for those who take your visibility as permission to harm you. The courage to be seen in your love is inseparable from the courage to set boundaries.
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