Radical Devotion to the Beloved Self

Mirabai's bhakti practice centered on direct, passionate devotion to the divine without intermediaries or conditions. Applied to attachment styles, this concept invites us to examine whether we seek a romantic partner to fulfill a role meant for ourselves—spiritual wholeness, self-love, creative expression. Anxious attachment often masks a hunger for transcendence projected onto another person. By cultivating radical devotion to our own becoming, our own truth-seeking, we can distinguish between authentic partnership and desperate merger. This doesn't deny love; it sanctifies the self as worthy of the intensity we normally reserve for others, creating a foundation of internal security that transforms how we show up in relationships.