Mirabai's teaching that love should flow outward without demanding ownership, revealing how anxious attachment stems from treating partners as objects to secure rather than souls to honor.
Mirabai's devotion to Krishna was unconditional and free from transactional expectation—she loved without needing reciprocation or exclusivity in the conventional sense. This radical devotion offers a mirror to attachment patterns: anxious attachers often treat partners as sources of validation to possess and control, while avoidant attachers withhold devotion to maintain independence. Mirabai teaches that true love releases the grip of need. By examining whether we love our partners for who they are or for what they provide us, we can identify possessive patterns masquerading as intimacy. Her example suggests that secure attachment emerges when we devote ourselves to another's growth and essence rather than their utility to our ego. This reframes partner selection from "Will this person complete me?" to "Can I love this person's becoming?"
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