A framework distinguishing between secure attachment as a consistent practice of showing up and caring versus anxious attachment masquerading as devotion through intensity of feeling.
Mirabai's bhakti wasn't an occasional overwhelming emotion—it was a daily, hourly practice of turning toward the divine, singing, dancing, serving, loving. She showed up regardless of feeling His presence or absence. This distinction is critical for attachment work: anxious attachment often mistakes intensity of longing for depth of devotion. Someone can feel desperately in love while being fundamentally unavailable or inconsistent. True devotion—like secure attachment—is demonstrated through sustained presence, reliability, and care over time. It survives the ebbs and flows of feeling. This practice-based framework helps distinguish genuine commitment from anxious fusion. In romantic relationships, it means: Can you show up consistently even when the relationship feels difficult? Can you practice care even when you're not receiving constant reassurance? Can you maintain your integrity and your own life even while being devoted to your partner? This is the foundation of secure, mature love.
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