Practicing moment-to-moment presence with your partner to dissolve idealized fantasies and attachments.
Mirabai's devotion is radically present—she doesn't imagine Krishna as she wishes him to be; she meets him as he is (or isn't). Many attachment problems stem from loving a fantasy rather than a real person. Anxious attachers often idealize partners, overlooking red flags because they're invested in the fantasy of being rescued. Avoidant attachers do the opposite—they find fatal flaws in partners to justify distance. Both miss the actual human in front of them. Mirabai's practice cultivates radical presence: What is this person actually expressing right now? What do they truly need? What are they really saying beneath their words? This devotional attention to reality dissolves both idealization and devaluation. You relate to your actual partner rather than your projections. This requires continuous return to the present moment and willingness to see and be seen authentically.
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