Devotional Reciprocity Check

While Mirabai's devotion to Krishna was beautiful and transformative, it was also fundamentally one-directional: she gave everything and received only what she could create in meditation and poetry. In human relationships, this dynamic often becomes pathological. The Devotional Reciprocity Check asks: Am I investing vastly more emotional energy than my partner? Am I forgiving serious harms in the name of "unconditional love"? Am I staying in a relationship that requires constant self-abandonment? Am I excusing my partner's unavailability or unkindness as "their nature" rather than a reflection of actual care? Mirabai's historical marriage was arranged and seemingly loveless—she could redirect her devotion elsewhere. But in modern partnership, one-directional devotion is a symptom of insecure attachment, not spiritual maturity. Secure attachment requires mutual vulnerability, reciprocal effort, and genuine care from both people. This tool helps distinguish between spiritual surrender (which works with the divine) and codependent self-erasure (which destroys human relationships).