Reclaiming Your Erotic Self

Mirabai's devotion to Krishna was explicitly erotic and sensual—she danced, she sang of longing, she did not separate spiritual love from bodily desire. Yet contemporary attachment theory often pathologizes erotic attachment or treats sexuality as separate from emotional intimacy. Reclaiming Your Erotic Self invites you to integrate the full spectrum of your loving nature. If you have anxious attachment, you might use sexuality to secure connection, or alternatively, suppress your sexuality to be "safe." If you have avoidant attachment, you might separate sexuality from intimacy. Mirabai demonstrates that the erotic and the spiritual are not opposed—they are expressions of the same life force. Authentic attachment includes desire, touch, vulnerability, and pleasure. The examined heart asks: How have I been taught to split off my sexuality from my love? Where have I been made to feel shame about wanting and being wanted? Reclaiming your erotic self means returning to the body as a legitimate source of wisdom and connection. It means that your romantic relationships can be simultaneously spiritual, emotional, and sensually alive—not in compulsive ways, but in ways that honor the fullness of human love.