Use anniversary dates to perform deep self-inquiry about what the loss reveals about your longings and values.
Mirabai was unflinching in her self-examination, using her longing for Krishna to interrogate her own heart, freedom, and authentic desire. On triggering dates, create space for solitude and reflection. Ask yourself: What did this person or version of life represent to me? What longings were they meeting? What am I truly grieving—them, or a version of myself? What values does this loss illuminate? These questions are not meant to rationalize or diminish your grief, but to deepen your understanding of yourself through the lens of loss. This examined heart practice honors both the person you've lost and your own becoming. Anniversary dates become occasions not just for remembrance but for self-knowledge—understanding who you are partly through understanding who and what you've lost.
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