Mirabai abandoned family, marriage, and social status to pursue her truth; this concept insists that secure attachment requires preserving your own freedom and autonomy.
Mirabai's radical freedom—leaving her husband, defying her family, refusing the socially acceptable path—was not rebellion for its own sake but devotion to authenticity. Her tradition teaches that freedom is non-negotiable: you cannot truly love another if you have abandoned yourself. Many insecure attachment patterns involve trading autonomy for connection—staying with unsuitable partners, suppressing your needs, performing a version of yourself you think your partner will accept. Mirabai demonstrates that genuine devotion requires fierce protection of your own truth. This doesn't mean independence or avoidance; it means your integrity is as sacred as your love. When choosing partners, ask: Does this person expand my freedom or contract it? Do I become more myself or less myself with them? Can I maintain my practices, friendships, values, and vision? Secure attachment means interdependence, not enmeshment. Mirabai's example shows that the examined heart protects its own autonomy while opening to connection. Your freedom is not selfish; it is the ground that allows genuine love to flourish.
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