Grieving as an Act of Love

For Mirabai, love didn't end at boundaries—her devotion to Krishna transcended the physical and temporal. She loved across impossible distances. Similarly, your grief on triggering dates is not a sign of failure to 'move on' but rather evidence of a love that refuses to diminish. The ache you feel on their birthday, the anniversary of their death, the date they would have graduated or married—this ache is active love. It says: you mattered so much that your absence still registers in my body and soul. Mirabai teaches that true devotion persists beyond conventional limits. Your grief is a form of ongoing devotion, a way of saying 'I still choose you, still honor you, still let you shape my heart.' On these dates, instead of suppressing emotion, you can recognize it as love continuing its work, even in absence. This reframe transforms grief from a problem to solve into a sacred practice.