Understanding that romantic love can develop through conscious cultivation and devotional attention, rather than requiring instant attraction or chemistry.
Bhakti tradition teaches that love is not a lightning strike but a disciplined practice—a turning-toward with full presence and intention. In arranged marriages, this reframes a common anxiety: "What if I don't love this person yet?" The concept of love as practice suggests that intimacy, understanding, and affection can deepen through consistent attention, vulnerability, and choice. Mirabai's devotion to Krishna was cultivated through song, prayer, and presence, not handed to her complete. Similarly, partners in arranged marriages can intentionally build connection through honest conversation, shared ritual, curiosity about each other's inner worlds, and willingness to be changed by knowing another person. This does not guarantee romantic love will emerge, but it shifts the framework from passive waiting for feeling to active creation of conditions where genuine affection can grow.
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