The Sanskrit concept of prema (pure, selfless love) used by Mirabai provides a framework where grief anniversaries honor the ongoing presence of love, not its absence.
In bhakti philosophy, prema is not sentiment but the fundamental currency of spiritual reality—the binding force between the soul and the divine. Mirabai lived in prema, understanding that love does not end but transforms. On grief anniversaries, this concept reorients our relationship to loss. Instead of focusing on absence, we can ask: How does the love persist? In what form does the beloved continue to move through me? Prema suggests that the anniversary date commemorates not an ending but a transformation in how love flows. The person may no longer be present in form, but the love—the prima materia—remains. This framework is not toxic positivity. It sits alongside the legitimate pain of missing someone. Rather, it invites us to recognize that on triggering dates, we are not only mourning the loss of form but also honoring the eternal reality of the love itself.
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