Mirabai cultivated relationships as sakhis (female companions in devotion), modeling a form of intimate companionship beyond romantic attachment.
In Mirabai's world, sakhis were women devoted together to Krishna, joined in spiritual intimacy that transcended the nuclear couple. This bhakti framework offers a radical reimagining for Buddhist relationship practice. The Brahmaviharas need not be confined to romantic partnerships or family ties—they can animate a wide circle of intimate friendships and spiritual companionship. The sakhi relationship models metta, karuna, mudita, and upekkha cultivated within freely-chosen community rather than obligatory kinship. This is revolutionary for Westerners who often expect one romantic partner to provide all emotional nourishment. Mirabai's tradition suggests we need many loves: intimate companions in practice, friends who witness our devotion, sisters on the path. These relationships, freed from the total expectations placed on romance, often paradoxically provide deeper nourishment. They also relieve the pressure on partnerships, allowing them to be what they are rather than everything we need.
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