The practice of releasing controlling behaviors in relationships by surrendering ego-driven needs, mirroring Mirabai's devotional surrender to the divine beloved.
Mirabai's bhakti practice centered on complete surrender to Krishna, dissolving the boundary between lover and beloved. In attachment theory, anxious and avoidant patterns often stem from attempts to control outcomes—either by clinging or distancing. Radical surrender invites partners to release the illusion of control, accepting vulnerability and interdependence. This doesn't mean passivity but rather conscious release of defensive strategies. When we surrender our need to be 'right' or protected, we create space for authentic connection. Mirabai's ecstatic devotion shows that attachment transforms when we stop performing for love and instead become the love we seek. Applied to romantic relationships, this means acknowledging our beloved as separate, honoring their autonomy, and trusting the relationship itself rather than managing it.
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