Patanjali's five mental afflictions that create attachment suffering: ignorance, ego, desire, aversion, and fear of loss.
The kleshas are Patanjali's framework for understanding suffering's root causes. In attachment work, these five obstacles illuminate why people struggle in relationships. Avidya (ignorance) involves misunderstanding your partner's true nature, projecting past wounds onto them. Asmita (ego) manifests as defensive reactions protecting a fragile self-image, preventing genuine vulnerability. Raga (desire/clinging) appears as obsessive thinking about your partner, needing constant reassurance, or idealizing them unrealistically. Dvesha (aversion) drives avoidant patterns where people withdraw when intimacy feels threatening. Abhinivesha (fear of abandonment) underlies much anxious attachment behavior. By naming these obstacles explicitly, Patanjali's system helps individuals recognize which kleshas drive their attachment patterns. Someone with strong raga might struggle with jealousy and obsessive thoughts; someone with strong dvesha avoids commitment despite wanting connection. Understanding these five patterns allows targeted work: observing when aversion arises and choosing vulnerability anyway, noticing when ego defends and choosing honesty instead. The kleshas aren't character flaws but universal patterns that yoga practice gradually dissolves.
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