Teaching children that their worth exists independent of external approval by modeling Rabia's unshakeable sense of being beloved by the divine.
Rabia possessed a radical confidence in her belovedness that transcended social status, poverty, or others' opinions. She belonged to something eternal and this knowledge was unshakeable. In attachment parenting practice, this concept invites you to help your child develop intrinsic belonging—the knowledge that they are fundamentally worthy, that they belong to you and to themselves, regardless of performance. This counters the modern tendency to use conditional praise ("good job!") and instead emphasizes unconditional recognition ("I see you working hard" or "you belong here exactly as you are"). When parents embody this recognition—treating the child as inherently belonging rather than needing to earn their place—children internalize secure attachment. Rabia's framework suggests that belonging isn't something to achieve but something to recognize and mirror back to your child constantly, creating the psychological foundation for healthy self-worth and relational security.
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