The paradoxical principle that true belonging to family and community flows from first belonging wholly to yourself, rooted in Rabia's complete devotion to her own path.
Rabia belonged to God alone, and this singular allegiance paradoxically made her a beacon of compassion and wisdom within her community. For parents, this reverses the typical hierarchy: rather than belonging fully to your children or family system, practice belonging first to your own authentic becoming. This creates healthier boundaries and models wholeness to your children. When you abandon your own path to serve others' expectations, you teach fragmentation; when you tend your own becoming, you model integration. Rabia's tradition suggests that your commitment to your own inner development—your values, growth, and self-knowledge—strengthens rather than diminishes your capacity to love others. This concept asks: To whom do you ultimately belong? What shifts when you prioritize your own becoming as sacred work equal to parenting?
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