A practice of seeing yourself and your family through the eyes of unconditional love, breaking the shame that perpetuates trauma cycles.
Shame is the glue that holds intergenerational trauma together. Children internalize the shame of their parents' wounds and pass it on as their inheritance. The Beloved's Gaze is a contemplative practice of imagining yourself, your parents, and your ancestors seen through the eyes of complete, unconditional love—the way Rabia understood God to see all beings. In this gaze, you are not defined by what you did wrong, what was done to you, or what you failed to prevent. You are seen whole. Your parents are seen whole. This is not forgetting harm or endorsing bad behavior, but removing shame as the lens. When you can see your mother's cruelty as her own wounding rather than evidence of your unworthiness, the spell breaks. When your child looks at you and sees a flawed human doing her best rather than a perpetuator of family curse, the cycle softens. This gaze is how love breaks the chain.
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