The Circle (Halaqah) as Belonging's Architecture

The halaqah—a circle of seekers sitting together for study, prayer, or presence—was Rabia's preferred form of gathering. Unlike hierarchies where followers sit before a stage, the circle ensures everyone sees everyone else equally. Physically, this embodies belonging: no one is hidden, no perspective is elevated, no person is more central than others. This contrasts with fitting-in structures, which are typically pyramidal (seeking approval from above) or spectatorial (performing for an audience). When you're in a true circle, you can't hide, can't be invisible, can't be merely decorative. You're expected to contribute, to be present, to see and be seen. Many modern groups claim to value belonging while maintaining hierarchical structures that inherently produce fitting in. Examine your communities' architecture: can you sit in a circle of mutual seeing, or are you arranged in a way that requires you to seek approval from above? Consider creating or joining actual circles—study groups, circles of trust, councils—that embody this structural commitment to equal belonging.