Rabia's practice of recognizing the divine in all beings, applied to helping adoptive children recognize safety and belonging in their new family.
Rabia spoke of the heart's capacity to recognize God in every encounter. Applied to adoptive parenting, this becomes the practice of helping children recognize home—not as a place they must learn to love, but as a presence they can come to trust through repeated experiences of being seen and held. This concept acknowledges that belonging is not automatic for children who have experienced loss, separation, or institutional care. The parent's role is to consistently offer recognition: seeing the child's authentic self, naming their feelings, honoring their history. Over time, this mirroring becomes internalized as safety. The Sufi emphasis on heart-knowledge rather than intellectual understanding suggests that children often need embodied, emotional proof of belonging before they believe it mentally. Practical applications include rituals of arrival, ceremonies that mark the child's place in the family, and repeated affirmations that celebrate the child's presence. The heart's recognition gradually transforms from external affirmation to internal knowing: home is where I am known and loved.
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