A reflective practice where we observe favoritism in others' behavior toward us to understand how we likely favor others unconsciously.
Rabia taught radical self-knowledge: looking inward without self-deception to understand our true state before God. The Mirror of Injustice applies this principle to favoritism. When we experience being excluded, overlooked, or treated as less worthy, we glimpse the pain our own favoritism inflicts on others. This is not guilt-inducing but clarifying: it shows us that favoritism is invisible to those who practice it. We all exist in networks of advantage and disadvantage; we benefit from some biases while suffering from others. By meditating on times we were not chosen, not preferred, not remembered, we develop visceral empathy for those we dismiss. This practice costs us our comfortable obliviousness but gains us wisdom and humility. Communities that institutionalize this reflection—through storytelling, deliberate perspective-taking, and confession—interrupt the cycle where those with power remain blind to their favoritism. Rabia's legacy is that spiritual growth requires seeing ourselves as others see us, especially the overlooked.
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