A parental stance that loves the child exactly as they are—not for potential, achievement, or reflection of parental identity—rooted in Rabia's unconditional devotion.
Rabia's love for God was stripped of all conditions: she famously said she loved God not from fear of Hell or hope of Heaven, but purely for God's sake. Parents often unconsciously invest in infants with conditions—wishes, expectations, unresolved dreams. Pure devotion reverses this. It means celebrating a baby's unique temperament, whether easy or difficult, whether the child matches parental hopes or not. An infant who cries, resists, or develops differently from expectation still deserves to be loved completely. This unconditional regard becomes the mirror in which the child learns their fundamental worth is not contingent on performance or perfection. Practically, it means letting go of narratives about who the child should become and instead staying present to who they are. This radical acceptance in infancy creates a psychological and spiritual foundation where the child trusts themselves and their place in the world.
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