A practice of examining your intentions toward each person to reveal whether your choices stem from genuine care or hidden preference and self-interest.
Rabia emphasized that spiritual purification begins with honest self-examination—looking directly at your own heart without excuse or denial. Applied to favoritism, this means asking: When I prioritize this person, is it because they truly need me most, or because they make me feel needed? Do I favor this group because they share my values, or because they validate my identity? This mirror practice requires unflinching honesty. Favoritism often disguises itself as fairness or justified preference. The practice of examining intention disrupts this disguise. By regularly asking yourself whether your choices serve others' genuine flourishing or your own comfort and status, you create friction against automatic favoritism. Rabia's tradition holds that this honest self-examination is not judgment but liberation—recognizing patterns frees you to choose differently. Over time, this practice cultivates what Rabia called a purified heart: one capable of seeing others as they are, not as projections of your needs.
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