A concept of pure intentionality—acting with full commitment while releasing attachment to results or recognition—that prevents favoritism from corrupting our relationships.
Qasd in Islamic philosophy means intention or purpose, and Rabia transformed it into a practice of absolute clarity without grasping. When we show favoritism, we are often attached to an outcome: winning love, securing position, ensuring loyalty. Qasd teaches that you can commit fully to someone—give them your best effort, presence, and care—while remaining internally free from the need for their approval or reciprocation. This dissolves the calculation that makes favoritism possible. You favor your child not because they owe you something, but because loving them is your intention, not theirs. The practice requires distinguishing between genuine commitment and strategic preference. In community, Qasd means you can prioritize responsibly—say yes to some requests and no to others—without the guilt or resentment that arises when favoritism is driven by hidden need. The cost of attachment-free intention is the vulnerability of not knowing whether your love will be returned; the gain is the freedom to love without manipulation.
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