The practice of accepting the specific, unique reality of this child—temperament, health, needs—rather than the fantasy child imagined.
Rabia's devotion included complete acceptance of divine will, even when it brought suffering. She refused to bargain with God or demand a different reality. In early bonding, parents often arrive with hopes, expectations, and imagined futures—gender preferences, personality traits, abilities. Yet the actual infant present is always different from the imagined one. True bonding begins when this gap is honored and released. Rabia teaches that authentic love means meeting what is, not grieving what is not. The colicky infant, the slow developer, the unusually sensitive child—each requires a particular form of presence. This surrender is not passivity but the most active form of love: the willingness to truly know and bond with the actual being before you, not the fantasy. This paradoxically allows the child's true self to emerge and flourish.
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