My partner and I both have trauma histories and we're realizing that our nervous systems are so sensitized to threat that we're constantly misreading each other's stress signals as danger, even when we're trying to be supportive.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people with complex trauma are experiencing their partner's dysregulation as a threat cue, creating a cycle where attempts at support trigger defensive responses in both people.
“Where Are You with Stress and the nervous system?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.