Periagoge
Scenario

When couples have incompatible sleep needs and styles

My partner and I have completely opposite sleep schedules and needs — they're a deep sleeper who needs silence and darkness, I'm a light sleeper who needs white noise and some light, and we've been sleeping separately for months but both feel like we're losing intimacy. We keep saying we'll figure it out but we're both just getting more resentful about whose needs get prioritized.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Different nervous systems and sleep requirements are creating distance and resentment in an intimate relationship.

Your guide for this
Dipa
Dipa works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Sleep — the science and the practice across traditions?”

Peri

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