My partner and I have completely opposite sleep schedules and needs — they're a deep sleeper who needs silence and darkness, I'm a light sleeper who needs white noise and some light, and we've been sleeping separately for months but both feel like we're losing intimacy. We keep saying we'll figure it out but we're both just getting more resentful about whose needs get prioritized.
More people experience this than they realize.
Different nervous systems and sleep requirements are creating distance and resentment in an intimate relationship.
“Where Are You with Sleep — the science and the practice across traditions?”
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