My partner and I have been caring for my elderly mother for two years and we've developed completely different approaches — I try to preserve her independence even when it's risky, he prioritizes safety above all else, and we're both exhausted from arguing about every decision while trying to do what's best for her.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people who love the same vulnerable person are discovering that their deepest values about autonomy, risk, and protection are fundamentally incompatible when it comes to actual care decisions.
“Where Are You with Caregiving?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.