My sister and I are both watching our dad decline and we're realizing we have completely different relationships with the same person - her memories of him are warm where mine are complicated, and we're struggling to grieve together when we're grieving different fathers. Neither of us is wrong but we can't seem to make space for both realities.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people's legitimate but incompatible experiences of the same person create a grief that cannot be shared in the usual way.
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