My creative collaborator and I have very different approaches to conflict - I want to hash things out immediately and they need time to process before talking, which means I feel dismissed and they feel pressured. Our project deadlines are making this worse because we can't afford to let disagreements sit, but forcing conversations isn't working either.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people's natural rhythms for processing conflict become incompatible under external pressure, creating a cycle where each person's needs invalidate the other's.
“Where Are You with Fairness — what every civilization concluded?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.