My non-binary sibling and I both grew up in the same conservative family, but they've gone no-contact while I'm still trying to maintain relationships and slowly educate our parents. They think I'm compromising my integrity and I think they're giving up too easily, and it's affecting our relationship with each other because we represent different strategies for dealing with family rejection.
More people experience this than they realize.
Shared trauma creates divergent survival strategies that then become sources of judgment and misunderstanding between the people who should understand each other best.
“Where Are You with Non-binary and genderqueer identity?”
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