My partner and I are both ADHD but we handle it completely differently - they need constant stimulation and social energy while I need quiet and routine to function, and we're struggling to create a home environment that works for both of us without one of us always feeling overstimulated or understimulated. We love each other but we're starting to resent the daily negotiations about noise levels, social plans, and even basic things like what kind of lighting to use.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people with the same neurotype are discovering their accommodations directly conflict with each other.
“Where Are You with Neurodivergent identity — autism and ADHD?”
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