My partner and I are both trans but we disagree fundamentally about whether being visible in our workplace is worth the risk, and it's creating distance between us because we're making different choices about disclosure and each feeling like the other doesn't understand our reasoning. We love each other but this feels like it's about more than just work—it's about how we see our responsibility to ourselves and our community.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people who share an identity are discovering they have fundamentally different relationships to visibility and risk.
“Where Are You with Queer identity as political and personal?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.