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Scenario

When shared identity becomes a source of judgment between friends

My roommate and I are both bi but she thinks I'm not 'queer enough' because I'm in a relationship with a man, and while she's never said it directly, I can feel her judgment and it's making our shared living situation tense. We used to bond over our shared identity but now it feels like she doesn't think I belong in queer spaces anymore.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people are navigating how visibility and relationship choices affect their sense of authentic belonging.

Your guide for this
Juana
Juana works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Queer identity as political and personal?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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