My roommate and I have gotten into this pattern where we both act like we're the more considerate person in the relationship and we've never actually examined whether that's true or what being considerate even means to each of us. Every small conflict becomes about who has the moral high ground and it's exhausting.
More people experience this than they realize.
Competing claims to ethical superiority are masking a deeper failure to examine actual behavior and establish shared standards for how to treat each other.
“Where Are You with The examined moral life?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.