My youngest brother is the golden child who can do no wrong in our parents' eyes, and my middle brother and I have this unspoken alliance about it that's become its own problem — we bond over resenting him instead of dealing with the actual family dynamics, and now he's trying to plan our dad's birthday and we're automatically resistant to everything he suggests.
More people experience this than they realize.
The way sibling coalitions can perpetuate the very dynamics they're meant to resist, creating new forms of exclusion and resentment.
“Where Are You with Sibling identity dynamics?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.