Our volunteer organization has a core group that's been together for years and we've developed this inside language and shared references that make newcomers feel like outsiders, but when someone points it out we get defensive because these connections feel important to us. We say we want to grow but we're not willing to examine what we'd need to change about how we relate to each other.
More people experience this than they realize.
Your group's intimacy has become exclusionary, but addressing it feels like it threatens the bonds that make the work meaningful.
“Where Are You with The social self and the private self?”
Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.