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Scenario

How to explain chosen family boundaries to children

I changed my name when I got married to distance myself from my abusive family but now my daughter is asking why she doesn't have any grandparents.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Protective identity choices create gaps that children experience as losses, requiring navigation between safety and belonging.

Your guide for this
Juana
Juana works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Adopted identity — chosen and given?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.