I cheated on my partner three years ago and they forgave me but they bring it up in every argument and I don't know if that's fair or if I lost the right to complain.
More people experience this than they realize.
The difference between accountability and perpetual penance highlights how unprocessed forgiveness can become its own form of relational violence.
“Where Are You with Punitive vs. restorative approaches to harm?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.