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Why People-Pleasing Feels Like Losing Yourself

I'm realizing that every time I get close to someone, I become whoever I think they need me to be, and I'm terrified that there's nothing underneath all these versions.

Juana
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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The adaptive strategy of mirroring others' expectations can become so pervasive that it obscures any sense of a stable, core identity.

Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with The multiple selves model — psychological?”

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.