My partner cheated on me three years ago and we worked through it, but I still bring it up during arguments and I can see it's destroying us both but I can't seem to stop.
More people experience this than they realize.
Someone discovers that choosing to forgive doesn't automatically heal the emotional wounds or change ingrained response patterns.
“Where Are You with Ubuntu justice — healing over punishment?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.