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When romantic partners struggle to accept asexual identity

My partner says they understand I'm asexual but keeps initiating sexual situations and then gets hurt when I'm not responsive, making me feel guilty for being myself.

Juana
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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The collision between a partner's sexual needs and asexual identity creates a painful dynamic where being authentic feels like causing harm.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Asexual and aromantic identity?”

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.