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How to Find Your Own Wants After Years of Self-Sacrifice

My therapist keeps asking me what I want but I've spent so long being the responsible eldest daughter that I literally cannot access a desire that isn't about fixing someone else's problem.

Juana
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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

When identity becomes entirely constructed around serving others' needs, the autonomous self can become so deeply buried that it feels nonexistent.

Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with The multiple selves model — psychological?”

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.