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Whether forgiveness is required for family healing

My uncle molested me as a child and he's dying now and my family wants me to visit him in the hospital because it's the right thing to do but I can't bring myself to fake forgiveness.

Juana
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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The pressure to perform reconciliation for others' comfort can re-victimize those who were harmed by prioritizing collective peace over individual healing.

Ideas that help explain it
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“Where Are You with Punitive vs. restorative approaches to harm?”

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