My family acts like we'll always be together in the same configuration but we won't - people will die, relationships will change, kids will grow up and leave. We make decisions avoiding this reality and I think it's keeping us from appreciating what we actually have right now instead of this fantasy version of permanent family.
More people experience this than they realize.
A family system is organized around the illusion of permanence rather than the truth of inevitable loss and change.
“Where Are You with Heidegger's being-toward-death?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.