My mom and I have this dynamic where she calls when she's anxious and I absorb all her worry, and then I call her when I'm anxious and she does the same thing, and we're just passing anxiety back and forth.
More people experience this than they realize.
You have created a closed loop of worry that amplifies rather than soothes each other's distress.
“Where Are You with African ubuntu time — event-based and relational?”
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